Yesterday, I linked to a post written by my friend Stephanie at “Dead and Domestic.” She wrote that post about her husband Dan. Today, she’s published another post that’s worth reading called “Friend or Enemy?”
In this new post, Stephanie writes about someone who she once considered an enemy, but who grew to be a friend. I was very encouraged and challenged by Stephanie’s words. Even though this person originally challenged her and frustrated her and angered her, she stuck with him and recognized that he genuinely cared about her.
But, she didn’t start out thinking that way. Stephanie writes:
When I was first introduced to him ( via the internet ), I was less than impressed. I’m pretty sure we got into it a few times. His views on the church and Christianity were drastically different than mine. They made me uncomfortable. They made me angry. I thought him arrogant and pretentious. How dare he challenge me on everything I knew to be true? After our discussions ( which were more like arguments ) and reading his blog, I felt hurt and confused. He was confusing other believers. He was hurting other people, I was sure, just as he was hurting me. He was creating holes inside of me. Gaps in my logic. I was so angry.
Now, you may know the person that Stephanie is writing about. But, I’m not linking to her because of that.
Instead, I want you to think about these questions: How do you respond when someone’s views challenges your long-held beliefs? Is it possible that person is a friend instead of an enemy? How would you tell the difference?