My friend Gary is missing. He is married, and has two 12 year old children (twins). His family has not seen him since Sunday evening (June 12, 2011).
About ten years ago, before I met Gary, he was diagnosed as bipolar. Very quickly, the doctors were able to prescribed a medicine regimen that helped him tremendously. He started seminary a few months before I did, and started working in the same office two months after me. So, we have known each other for almost nine years.
Gary is a great friend. He is an awesome theologian and philosopher. We’ve talked and encouraged and admonished one another about church, families, prayer, and so many other things. He is a mentor as well as a brother.
About a year ago, Gary’s medication stopped working. He began going through long and short bouts of depression while the doctors tried to regulate his medication again. This time, it isn’t going to smoothly. They’ve tried medicine after medicine after medicine. We’ve talked and prayed and laughed and cried together as he worked through this.
Yesterday afternoon (Monday, June 13, 2011), Gary’s wife and children came home and found a note that Gary left for them. According to his wife, the note indicated that Gary was planning to take his life.
No one has heard from Gary since his family talked with him before bedtime Sunday night. We know he left his house around 8:30 a.m. Monday morning and later bought gas and breakfast. As of Monday evening, there was some indication (via his cell phone) that he was still traveling around the area.
My heart is hurting. Yes, I’m hurting for myself and my family, because we all think alot of Gary. But, my heart is primarily hurting for Gary’s wife and children. They just want to know where their husband and father is.
God, could you let them know? Could you let us all know? We want Gary back.
(And, would you please pray for Gary and his family?)
I wrote this post Monday evening after spending several hours with Gary’s family. (I rescheduled several posts that I had already written because I just didn’t want to think about ecclesiology.)
Within an hour or so of re-writing this post, Gary’s wife left this message on Facebook: “Gary just texted. He says he’s ok. Couldn’t go through with it and would be home tomorrow. Please keep praying.”
I decided to leave this post as is and ask you to continue praying for Gary and his family.
Final update… Gary came home around 7:00 this morning (Tuesday, May 14, 2011).