As many of you know, I do not consider myself to be “emerging” or “missional”. I do agree with many of the things that I have read from those who consider themselves emerging/missional. However, McKnight’s post was less about emerging than it was about dealing with people who disagree and critique your views. His advice was very good.
Consider this suggestion:
Fourth, find a critic and make him or her your friend – have coffee, go out for lunch, go to dinner. Learn to converse with that person as a friend about what interests her or him and what interests you. You may grow in your appreciation for that person and she or he may grow in their appreciation for you. (Wouldn’t that be a good thing?) Gosh, maybe you will even become friends. I’ve sat over coffee with many a critic of emerging.
In another suggestion, he asks us to consider that none of us are “right” about everything. We all must be willing to listen to others, recognizing that the other person may be right.
All of his suggestions are very good. The post caused me to look at how I think about and deal with people who disagree with me. What about you?
Are you willing to sit down over coffee with someone who disagrees with you? Are you willing to talk about areas in which you agree instead of only focussing on the disagreement? Are you willing to possibly even become friends with this person? Are you willing to admit that you may be wrong and the other person may be right?
Could it be that walking in unity with someone begins with walking with someone, instead of simply critiquing their views?